| Friday, April 13, 2007 |
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hello! sorry for not updating my dearest blog which should be filled with cobwebs by now... =P (Truth is, i really enjoy blogging, and always have LOADS of things i want to write in, however time has hardly been by my side these few days... =[ ) Been really busy these few days, due to 3 reasons. 1, Mid year is coming!!!! Which means revision time!!! XIAN... 2, I had been sick for 2 days! And trust me, missing just 2 days of school takes 1 WHOLE week to catch up. This includes all the tests and hw... And staying back to get teachers to teach u what u have miss out. 3, OBS next week!!! Whoop! i'm so looking forward to it. HOWEVER, gotta rush this very week to try learn whatever the rest will be learning, so i won't 'die' when i return back. ^^ ALright, as usual, i'll repeat my USUAL line... loads of things happened. =) There was funny lessons, stressful periods which i got so stressed up during class till i could FAINT... =P And i would start complaining so much... no one could stand me... OPS!! And then there is the NAFA test, which we ( Cyn, Rachel and Me) SLACKED. And i got full marks... ^^ Improved in sit and reach. And i learnt that warming up ur leg muscles DOES help! Or u could just simple do shuttle run first, or... Agility jumps. =) And i have 2 topics i wanna discuss about, before moving on to TODAY. =) Firstly, is this topic Ms low was discussing with us on thus, which was about the INTERNET. To be more specific, it was about ppl who have a completely different personality online, compared to real life. However, the point i care more about is... making friends online. =P The rest are kinda logical. So.... Good or bad? Good part is that, it is EASY. Just simply add the person's e mail, or find the person's name on friendster and click the little button, add as friend. PRESTO! it's is done. And it's is so easy to talk to a complete stranger and get to know him/her better = friends. Don't have to worry about posture, language, facial expression and tone. All in the WORDS. However, this creates an unawareness of the person u are getting to know. And the actual fact that, no matter how often u talk to that person through the virtual world, u'll STILL find it very different when talking to the person in REAL life. This is simply due to the fact that u can hide your flaws and FAKE your way thru, to portray a perfect person in ur context that is... Another reason for the shock is that, when talking online, one tends to imagine the face, look, and expression the person is having. Most people would imagine good and 'up to standard' mental images and thus... creating an expectation... (oh no, that's bad! cuz.... it leds so... disappointment. =[ ) One more point. People find it difficult approaching that friend in real life. Yes, it IS very true... Why? Because they look so much different. And the Internet has helped us banish the shy factor, till we get too used to it. zZZzzzZZ. Therefore, i have always been trying, despite the fact that it IS difficult, to talk to online friends in real life. I would also prefer people making friends with me face to face than online. Even calling is better than sms and msn. REALLY... Hope it does work... And maybe i'm giving an idea to ppl i have YET to know, on how it would be better to make friends with me. =) To those people who i've met online and realised that i notice u in school and making an effort to start a conversation, please take note of my view... and hopefully it has solved any... misunderstandings...LOL. i'm NOT desperate for attention!!! ( yes ppl i'm adware e that i am self-proclaimed anti-social... LOL. the fact is i DO feel anti-social at times, but i'm trying to change that... =] ) Uses of internet----> Express oneself... HMMM, i'm doing it right now... BLOGGING! hope it does not get me into trouble. =P The second point... Is about attraction of girls and guys. Which i got from leon's blog: "Right. We've all been through this step - rejected, reject others. Oh well. What has come to past has became a valuable lesson to me. Gone were the days where I immaturely pursued a girl's love with presents, mushy messages and lots of sincerity. Seriously, I thought they would work, accompanied with lots of sweet tongue and all those lovey dovey things you see on television serials. Now I know who to trust - not those stupid television dramas, not those romantic movies, and definitely not Parvesh! (LOL)What seemed like a wooing strategy for us guys (all the romantic candlelit dinner, buying hella lots of gifts and declaring your undying love for her) is just a complete turn off for the ladies.Like, really turn off.Not logical? Nevermind, let me put this across - the effect all this "wooing strategy" have is simple, you make her scared of you, she puts up your defences and WHAM. Bye for a century. For guys, it's going to be different when some hot sizzling babe goes up to you and pour out all her love to you! You will be like, WOW, YES, I'm in cloud 9! Guys are like switches, girls are like volume knobs. It takes a moment to attract a guy but it takes a process to attract a girl.Doing such stuff like giving lots of presents and declaring your undying love just makes you look desperate, an extreme turn off for the ladies! Attraction is a tough thing for guys to learn. Yet ladies grasp them well, like naturally - playing hard to get, making you miss them, a little touch here and there, suspense.. ETC. Makes you crazy no?" Hope u don't mind me just copying it straight. =P too lazy to summarise it. Well, i DO agree to it to some extent... oh no, cannot say some... Mdm rozy would kill me for writing that in SS. =P hmmm, lets just say half of it. I guess i have to agree that guys can be attracted really quickly, while girls need time. =) But of course there is an explanation to it. Girls are by nature more sensitive, more observant, and more concern about 'details'. While guys mostly have a certain extend of 'heck -care' attitude. And i can say that girls are more serious in this kinda situation, and most girls would and will put all their heart on the line. An obvious example, girls take a long time to get over a relationship, with many days spent on crying and heartache, while guys... i'm not saying they don't feel any heartache at all, cuz of course they do! However, most guys get over it quicker than girls. Another point i agree in is 'turn offs'. Being too direct in confessing feelings IS a major turn off. Esp if the relationship/friendship is not yet stable. EG, u don't even know the person well. Or like from my previous discussion topic, u hardly even talk in REAL LIFE!! Most girls would turn to rejecting as they do not know how to handle the 'extra, super, difficult and mind boggling question' which can actually be a one word answers to guys. Why? Girls takes it more seriously. (added point. Guys who comes in too strong are big turn offs too. Cuz, they tend to invade the girl's privacy and she may think ur irritating. Plus, it would only make matters worse if she don't even knoe u that well. So another hint... Get close to girls first. Rushing it would mean... GONE CASE. ) However, this does not include those who both have feelings for each other. This scenario would most likely have a happy ending... Don't u think it's so beautiful when 2 ppl confesses that they BOTH have feelings for each other. <333 Imagine the joy of that knowledge... The ultimate cure for all the secret heartaches which u thought were useless... Now exposed and accepted... Okay, i'm getting carried away by DRAMA series. But hey, it DOES happen in real life!!! Think about it, issn't that how couples are formed? A certain percentage of them to be specific. Now for the disagreements. Since i'm already on the topic of drama series, might as well continue. Many people think that whatever that happens in those romantic drama series and movies are all... PURE CRAP. But after much thinking, maybe some parts are exaggerated (which totally makes those drama series interesting!) , but there is still a possibility it does happen in real life... What people call, the MIRICLES. Do u believe in miracles? However, i do not encourage people to go believe in fairy tale endings. Just that, it MAY happen. But it would be better to go do something about ur liking that to wait for... FATE... i believe in actions. =) Oh yes, this reminds my of a movie i have recently watched. " The Cinderella Story". Watched it? A beautiful modern fairy tale story... Ahhhh, so sweet.... The beauty of how everything falls in place so perfectly... And getting the HOTTEST guy ( gotta admit, Chad Michael Murray is hot! shuai ge!!! =P) in school to have a secret personality under all the peer pressure and actually fall in love with a normal gal. What a..... FAIRY TALE... Sadly, to say, if everything falls so perfectly, it won't be LIFE. however, the same kinda plot may happen, but of course not so 'perfectly'. Go pick up some magazine and find a page on the couple's view about how they met. Mostly would have some fairy tale plot... How beautiful. ^^ Okay, talking way off point now. Back to my disagreement. The fact that guys are like switches... Do u think it's easy to attract a guy??? Firstly, to prevent and misunderstanding and interpretation, i, Jamie Lim have NEVER tried to be desperate and get a guy's attention or attraction... Soon???? One day???? eh, maybe NOT. i don't believe in being desperate. =P ( The attention i refer to is liking. Sexual appeal and so on. Obviously not counting getting guys to listen to my views and what so not.^^) okay, i think i have had some similar conversation with some friends on " It's hard to get a guy's attention", which was a HOT topic for me as i wanted to explore it further and prove my point. =) Oh, it was inspired by... my COUSIN! =x The final product of the conversation is that. I feel that it IS hard to get a guy's attention/attraction. UNLESS, he is single and MAYBE desperate for a companion. It is said that most would go with the flow. Guess guys are less picky while girls tend to be more fussy. =X 2nd point, it even harder to get a guy's attention when he is chasing some other girl. Why? SOME guys treat it like a challenge... And truth is, that they ARE in control of how they get the girl. Be it romantic dinners, presents or just simply confessing feelings. TRUTH, guys do the chasing. U hardly see girls chasing guys... i hope not... hmmmm... Back to point. ( sorry to those who are getting bored about my 'beating around the bush'. new ideas are popping up in my overloaded brain that i'm repeating at time to pack more points in. =P) Since guys are in control of how the relationship generates over time, they can plan? or plot?. They usually can see the whole process and work towards the goal, which is... getting the girl to like him. Thus treating it as a challenge and the confident that he can achieve it would keep him going till the goal is met. ( psychological thinking). 3rd point. Girls CAN and are easy to attract. Oh no, u may think i'm confused or mad cause i sound as if i am contradicting myself. HOWEVER, the before paragraph on the same point is explaining girls character and why they CANNOT be attracted INSTANTLY. =) This is talking about attraction and not counting time limits. See the link? =P Now, why do i say girls are easy to attract. Firstly, girls are soft hearted, and can be 'touched' easily. Seen drama series when the guy simply have to stand in the pouring rain outside the girl's house and the girl would forgive him for whatever he has done? Same concept here. Sincerity and actions to prove it can soften the girl's 'heart' and in turn, getting the girl's love. Why? Those actions prove that the guy is trust-able. Oh no, i have just gave guys a huge hint in the woo-ing strategy. Lol, carry on learning and improving!! =P Last point. Hot and famous for being HOt ppl are SUPER hard to attract. This somehow applies to both girls and guys. I think the peer influence that that ARE hot cause higher expectation to one-self and thus resulting in being more fussy. ( Impt point, i am NOT referring to ppl who are famous for knowing and talking alot ot e opp sex (flirts) AND those who are popular for being outspoken and thick skinned! eg, self-proclaimed HOT) (All these points are gathered from the friends i have asked and discussed with. From different ppl's views. So if u feel that u have more to add, a need to disagree or agree, pls do so! =) help me improve the points on ATTRACTION) AND, i'm giving 'hints' NOT because i want someone to try get my attention. Just adding into the topic and helping the female species??? LOL... Anyone who feels insulted, i'm really sorry. This is not meant to insult anyone. Just a point of view. My point of view. Not saying that it is 100% CORRECT, but just explaining why i feel this way. =) OKAY!!!!! done. and now for today. Lessons = STRESSFUL. Esp chem when i got mental block when Mrs chee was testing me... SO HORRIBLE to be unable to answer the right question... ESP in front of Mrs CHee!!!!! Ahhhh!!!! I was stoning in SS. How sad... =P ANd then today is TK sports carnival. Had games and all. WOnderful free and happy atmosphere. Raining... Cold and wet... Loads of ppl were REALLY skating while playing netball... XD. But the main focus is... I got so so jealous today... Over??? No, no, don't anyhow think it's over a guy or something... Restate point.. i'm NOT and will not be desperate. =P I'm jealous over... THE UNITY OF OUR CLASSES!!!!! omg... i realised how un-united 3A was... It is... so horrible... till... till... ????? I cannot think of a word to describe it... LOL. Anyways, i'm really upset over the state of MY class! Looking at others classes.... EG, 3C which won inter class netball, congrets ^^. Oh how united they all were. The support from their class deserved the winning place too. They had banners made to support their class, all wearing class T, and ALL together... As a CLASS... gosh, i feel miserable... 3A is extremely un-united... I MISS 2C'06!!!! WE used to be so united... SOB.... Now, for 3A. Even the sitting arrangement for the hall shows!!! For class 3A line, only 10 people from class 3A were in it... The shortest line u can find in the hall... And the rest of the ppl were sitting with their friends... ='( Very little cheered for the wins... Look at other class. 4C!!!! They all stood up for each win!!! 2C'06 used to be like that... i miss that too much... Oh, i'm just feeling so so sad now... SOB.... So many were taking class photos and 3A??? Almost NONE... GREAT. just great... Now, i'm going to try achieve the ALMOST impossible... I'm going to try build the class unity. YEs i WILL. Really hope for the class's cooperation. Come on! we are going to be a class for 2 years!!!! But first, i gotta get close to my class girls... I'm willing to change my daily... routine?? / life??? to achieve class unity... And my goal... NEXT YEAR... 3A'07------>4A'08 WILL be the upper sec champion!!! Ops, it's going to ruin the C class trend... =P Next year, we WILL be united and we WILL support our class members. We WILL want to gain glory for our class. Our netball team WIL win GOLD next year! And we WILL try our best 2 win the others.... Table tennis already got a gold. Computer quiz CAN win with ALEX!!!! Basketball was almost there this year... Jia you next year!!!! And the relay... WE CAN AND WILL WIN. okay... i've listed my goal... work towards it... and hope for the best! |
